A few years ago I was chatting with a client, he was not my client, but as circumstance would have it we ended up in the same room. Our difference in opinion started on escort and client relationships, he was convinced that every single escort in the industry will at some point fall in love with a client. I was in complete disagreement.
It was not the idea of an escort falling for a client or a client falling for an escort that was false. I disagreed with the specific wording - ‘every single escort’. Possibilities are endless but never 100%
We know that escort girls, and sometimes they can be boys, are real human beings with emotions, desires, and lives. They can be alone and they can feel lonely. They all have their own values and an understanding of what life is to them.
For me to say that an escort cannot fall for a client is like saying I can grow a donkey tail over night.
My argument with our previously mentioned client was about me. I laughed at him and told him that I could never in my life fall for a client. And I believed it to the core of my being.
I could not at the time defend my position because I just didn’t want to come off as a cold-hearted bitch. In the privacy of this blog I will proceed in explaining my point of view.
I could never love a client...
because I do not take “love” seriously.
What is love, I ask?
Do I own this 'love'? Is it something I can feel, hold, keep?
In stories we read how it is to be loved by a man. A man's love is possession. A man may claim you are free but slowly you feel the grasping love creep up on you. Suddenly the language changes, “you are ‘my’ girl” - he would say. His pride turns to jealousy… and then control…and finally death comes to what was once a beautiful feeling.
Another reason why I would not fall for a client is professionalism. Knowing that you are a professional (hence the word 'pro' which could also signify prostitute) puts a certain amount of responsibility on judgement. If you take on the responsibility of putting on a condom with every client than why not keep an emotional distance? It is a measure of protection for both parties involved.
And lastly, I can never fall for a client because it has been put to the test. There was once a client I went ga-ga over. He was tall, dark, handsome and very well hung ;) haha Every single time we saw each other it was amazing. I was getting the best of both worlds - a man that excited me and money. I knew that if I started dating him I could no longer get paid for our time together. And that transaction I could not give up on a passing hope that there could be something more - love?
To this day I know an escort like I could never fall for a client.